There should be a word for when you don’t get a joke the first time you hear it, but upon expanding your life experience you realize it is in fact hilarious and TOO TRUE. [There probably is a word in German for that, something like ichwardummabetvergnügtnachzeit.]
For me, that applies to this scene from The Office:
If I had known more married couples when that first aired, I bet I would have been in stitches. But I’m one of the first of my friends to get married, so I didn’t realize how much honeymoons are about inside jokes.
The romantic notion is that honeymoons are about banging. For some couples, I’m sure this is true, and I admit I’m a little jealous of you. Don’t get me wrong, honeymoon sex is fantastic, but for me and Collin, and I suspect MOST couples, it’s not enough for a full vacation calendar.
How do you fill the downtime between wild romps in the hotel sheets? With inside jokes.
On your honeymoon, you’re spending essentially all your time for DAYS with the same person. You are on a goofy emotional high after having been married. You are isolated from the real world. This is dangerous breeding ground for inside jokes.
We had two main honeymoon jokes:
- Sedona Jack, you sunuvabitch! Collin invented the “Sedona Jack” game while we were in Sedona. The game is quite simple: look for the illusion of a face in rock walls. Whenever you find it, say “Sedona Jack, you sunuvabitch!” (The idea being that an entity named Sedona Jack is carving these supposedly naturally appearing faces into the rocks). The person who spots the most faces wins.
- Thatza spicy carnitas enchilada! This game is even worse, if you can believe that. All it is is saying patently non-Italian foods in the voice of a cartoon Italian chef. Collin and I are both pretty terrible at doing accents, which makes this even worse. But it does bring about the secondary game of “what did that attempt at an Italian accent actually sound like?” E.g. snooty dude from the Eastern Bloc underwater; angry Scotsman through a megaphone).
We still return to these games to pass the time on long car trips and the like, even though the Eastern Seaboard offers substantially fewer opportunities to spot the works of Sedona Jack. As annoying and bizarre as couple’s inside jokes might seem to the outside world, I think having these little personal jokes and games is a great tool for a healthy relationship. It builds a sense of togetherness, it helps you get through the hard times (like being in park on I-70 W), and laughter makes everything better.
Did you come back from your honeymoon with a bunch of inside jokes? Are you brave enough to share them for public judgment?