There are certain things about weddings you only learn when you throw one, like the true value of a plus one or the importance of not bugging the couple with logistical questions the week of the wedding.
As our mail has come in over the last few days, I’ve learned I am a jerk, because a) I hardly ever send RSVP cards back promptly b) I have never in my life written a note on one.
But here we are and every RSVP we’ve gotten thus far has a little message on it, from “Beautiful invitations!” (Thank you!) to “Lame!” regarding the presence of crab in both of our non-vegetarian entree options (Bite me, Josh, I’ll sign you up for the kosher variation).
Is this normal? Should I have been writing a quick greeting on RSVP cards all these years? I know that back in the way-back people didn’t include an RSVP card because it was expected that the guests would send their own note. But that was before cell phones and the internet, so that rule is too old to count. I mean, it’s not like I tell people my phone number starting with the word “Parkview.” Times change, right?
Or am I just a timeless jerk? Do you write a little note on the RSVP cards you send back? If you’re married, did you learn to do it from that? Because I feel like I have to from now on.