I spoke with our wedding planner today, and she asked if we’ve finalized the guest list. I told her “more or less.” Which means two things:
1. I keep remembering more people. You maybe would think that if I forgot this person exists for this long, I should not be inviting them to my wedding. But that is overestimating my memory. I forgot blood relations. I forgot close friends. When will I reach the point where I am confident I haven’t forgotten anyone else?
Did anyone else have memory lapses when it came to the guest list? How did you overcome that problem?
2. The Plus One Dilemma. I’m torn over this.
Reasons I would like to give everyone a plus one:
- Not having to decide who gets a plus one and who doesn’t.
- Not making single people feel somehow devalued.
- Not having to figure out how to make it clear on the invitations who has not been given a plus one.
- Selfish reason: I have taken a date to wedding when I was single, and I was very glad to be able to do so.
Reasons I think we probably should not give everyone a plus one:
- If everyone can bring a guest and everyone does, we’ll be over capacity.
- If we are at or just slightly under capacity, we’ll still likely be over-budget.
- Selfish reason: I want people to fall in love at my wedding. SO BADLY. My cousin is marrying someone he met at his best friend’s wedding. That’s my dream. I have a lot of attractive single friends. They should meet each other at my wedding and fall in love. Or at least screw.
So there are my current wedding problems. I’d like to take a second to point out that thinking about wedding problems for the last twenty minutes or so as I wrote this post was a delightful vacation from thinking about real problems like, “will I ever get a real job?” Yay, wedding!