I really want to run into another bride on my wedding day.
Similarly, when I’m at a party and another woman is wearing a dress the same as or very similar to mine, I must absolutely get a photo with her. Even when the other woman looks like Jessica Rabbit:
Admittedly, this is, in part, a very self-conscious act of feminism, fighting against the sexist narrative that women regard each other with suspicion, jealousy, and fear, emotions which are exponentially related to the attractiveness of the other woman. And part of it is because I’m not a jerk. So I’d rather high-five you and enjoy the camaraderie of a shared taste (read: awesome taste!) in dresses than feel bummed that you have nicer curves than I do under that dress, or what have you.
So I want to run into another bride on my wedding day and share the joy and camaraderie of “We’re both getting married today!” But I worry that if I run into another bride (which is likely, because there are three wedding spaces in the hotel I am staying in and we’ll be taking pictures in some very cliché spots around Pittsburgh the day of) she will not feel the same way. I mean, even I thought it was a plus when a venue only had one wedding space (which is more about insecurity about measuring up to the other wedding than jealousy of the bride, specifically). And what if other women do buy into the “It’s my day” message and see me as a threat to their best chance to be the center of attention for a day? I really don’t want to run in for the high-five and get a “bitch, please.”
So I think I will resist my in-your-face instincts and subtly wave to the other bride and yell, “Happy wedding!” or something like that as a way to test the waters and to see if she’d be cool with a meet n greet and an ironic Bride Wars photo. But I really hope she is, because combining the joy of two brides into one moment of bonding with a stranger sounds amazing to me.
If you are married, did you run into any other brides on your wedding day? How did it go? For everyone else, let’s just hypothetical: would you be cool with a stranger in a bridal gown being like, “Hey fellow bride, WHAT UP?” Or would that just irritate you?